Dr. Meg Jay recently wrote an article on women and men who rose to success after overcoming difficult childhoods, displaying what’s commonly called resilience.
“I don’t need time. What I need is a deadline.”
— Duke Ellington
I woke up at 3:15am on a Saturday morning, stumbled into clothing and biked 30 minutes across town from East to South London. Zombie-like and bloodshot, dodging broken glass and other remnants of a Friday night, I cursed myself.
Have a hard time “being present?” Or maybe, like me, you don’t know what it actually means to “be present?” Last week I heard Dr. Ellen Langer offer a more helpful and actionable alternative definition:
“The moment my legs begin to move my thoughts begin to flow.” – Henry David Thoreau
A few weeks ago, I was preparing for presentation at Unilever on “why people leave their corporate jobs to follow their purpose.” Two days before the talk, a bit stressed with no slide deck or outline yet prepared, I chose not to sit down at my desk to write, but do something counterintuitive instead: I took a long walk.
Feedback can be hard. First, drumming up the courage to ask for it. Then actually listening to it without taking it personally. And perhaps hardest of all: sifting through conflicting feedback to know what to listen to, and what to ignore.
It was a call to arms to make the most out of the final 100 days of 2017, born of a personal pain. I looked back at the progress I’d made on my goals for the year, terribly disheartened. Then I remembered: we still have 100 days!
130 people joined me and together we each committed to a personal mission to finish 2017 strong. Some people set 100 individual tasks (i.e. 100 nature drawings), others decided on a singular goal.
Here’s a song I wrote and performed over the weekend for Escape The City’s London Career Change program, about the troubles of wanting to change your career but not knowing where or how to start.
I typically only play guitar in the comfort of my own room, so this was a comfort challenge for me. But I wanted to role model acting with discomfort to the brave group of people in the room embarking on a career change.
Last Friday I facilitated a team building workshop with a small team in London. Usually I help individuals find more fulfilment at work – which occasionally involves them quitting a job or a team. Friday’s task was different: help strengthen a current team.
I loved it. I learned a lot. Including the realization that I’d like to do more of this kind of work. (Which might influence the rankings in my geeky project decision spreadsheet.) So wanted to share a few of these lessons with you.
This is a follow up post to Vision Quests & The Power of Intention.
“Now I certainly see the value in having goals and improving yourself. But I’m avoiding making a list of declarations to internally grade and beat myself up over.” — Kevin Rose in his January 2017 newsletter, The Journal
Goals are golden. New years resolutions intend well. They can serve as powerful propellers, mobilizing us toward grand achievements and new experiences.